Hello DSGHQ,
I would like to extend an apology to you all. As you know, I have acted up in the past few weeks; I have acted in ways that have gone against most, if not all, of my morals. You may have noticed that I have started to treat people differently. For example, I’ve started coming at people for their personal issues. That is all kinds of messed up, as I went for things that people can't necessarily control. The Oldcp community is not supposed to contain drama or negativity; it is supposed to be a safe and friendly environment.
Not only did I disregard the rules, but I also lost the trust of so many people that I had come to call my old friends. I regret the poor behavior I have displayed on multiple occasions throughout my recent visitation in the Oldcp community. I’ve realized that I am significantly influenced by others and often ride the bandwagon. This is something I am going to stop doing ultimately. It only makes my decisions and my behavior worse, and it affects other people negatively. I had recently thought back to the days when I was Alice, a carefree, kind, and helpful girl. I have decided to make an effort to be that girl again. If I’ve learned one thing, It’s not to take out issues in real life on the environment around you. To be specific, I was recently hospitalized for my mental health. I have been taking out my sorrow on you all, which I regret deeply. I don’t ask for pity; I only ask for acknowledgment that my mental health was not entirely there. (That is not an excuse for my poor behavior.) The people I affected did not deserve to go through that constant harassment, and for that, I am irrevocably sorry. I am not asking for anything more than consideration of this apology. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this; I genuinely appreciate it.

Sincerely,
Cate
P.s. Personal apologies will be sent out shortly after this is posted.

Look, you're just my type
Baby, when we gon' slide?
I'll put you in a G-Wagen if that's your vibe
And I ain't even gon' lie
Don't you ever play around, even when you're mad, you're mine
Baby, don't you ever switch sides
You know I can see it in your eyes
Yeah, we on the same page, we on the same wave
Drinkin' champagne on the airplane
Bustdown on your pinkies and your earrings
I know they call me Boogie Man, but it ain't scary
All this money on me, it's a damn shame
And I don't want you to ever feel embarrassed
So I bought you some baguettes, I bought you some carats
Yeah, but I think I was over my head, movin' too fast

Had you written an apology with this 1 sentence instead,

Quote:

Hello DSGHQ,
Sorry for posting on behalf of Carly’s empty apologies and I will no longer continue to flood her negative influence onto this community because I know better than to do that.

Sincerely,
Cate

...that would’ve been enough for everyone.

Let it be known that
-You and Carly were the only two people who liked one of the recently taken down discussions (Kill All Men) which was heavily inappropriate.
-You created a discussion (called OldCP Bombing) just to irrelevantly call out someone for demotion?
-You stand by/vouch for someone who bullied Terry for being deaf?
-There’s a difference between bringing up what happened in the past and always acting like your past self.

You would be surprised how many Staff and users are fed up by what you two have been doing lately. Given several chances, just to totally ruin it for others who are denied that same privilege. On top of that, Idc if you two are veterans - when all you've done is paint a bad picture for the genuinely good ones.

I’m all for positivity and leaving on a good note but frankly, I can’t find any in this after seeing it all. Get your act together.

so now that we’re done with that, you want to see my renegade

i guess i deserve this lmao

PabIo wrote on 15th October 2020, 03:45 AM:

Had you written an apology with this 1 sentence instead,

Quote:

Quote:
Hello DSGHQ,
Sorry for posting on behalf of Carly’s empty apologies and I will no longer continue to flood her negative influence onto this community because I know better than to do that.
Sincerely,
Cate

...that would’ve been enough for everyone.
Let it be known that
-You and Carly were the only two people who liked one of the recently taken down discussions (Kill All Men) which was heavily inappropriate.
-You created a discussion (called OldCP Bombing) just to irrelevantly call out someone for demotion?
-You stand by/vouch for someone who bullied Terry for being deaf?
-There’s a difference between bringing up what happened in the past and always acting like your past self.
You would be surprised how many Staff and users are fed up by what you two have been doing lately. Given several chances, just to totally ruin it for others who are denied that same privilege. On top of that, Idc if you two are veterans - when all you've done is paint a bad picture for the genuinely good ones.
I’m all for positivity and leaving on a good note but frankly, I can’t find any in this after seeing it all. Get your act together.

There is no business in bringing up the past with Terry that has been already solved with Carly and him and the staff team. Don’t involve me or carly in eachothers decisions because we are both separate people. If I or her like a post that has no play with my apology or my sympathy. So many men of the game like eachothers troll post towards women and other members but aren’t called out. What I like doesn’t define me nor Carly so please stop.

kaylagal wrote on 15th October 2020, 08:20 AM:

i guess i deserve this lmao

i’ll make one comment (seriously) towards this. you cant expect everyone to forgive you nor take you seriously when you havent portrayed yourself seriously. both you and carly have caused serious harm to people in the community, one of them which i know. i tried convincing myself maybe you guys changed, but both of you clearly havent. when you apologize like this then go out and cause drama, it completely nullifies your apology.

indigo wrote on 15th October 2020, 10:59 AM:

Quote:

kaylagal wrote on 15th October 2020, 08:20 AM:
i guess i deserve this lmao

i’ll make one comment (seriously) towards this. you cant expect everyone to forgive you nor take you seriously when you havent portrayed yourself seriously. both you and carly have caused serious harm to people in the community, one of them which i know. i tried convincing myself maybe you guys changed, but both of you clearly havent. when you apologize like this then go out and cause drama, it completely nullifies your apology.

I'm genuinely confused as to when I started drama after my apology. please let me know when I did. if I did and didn't notice, that's on me, I get it. i don't expect everyone to forgive me, it's a given that people won't. i understand the harm I have caused and am truly trying my hardest to change for the better. it doesn't matter what you or anyone else thinks bc I know who I am and I know that I'm truly trying. i do appreciate the feedback however.

kaylagal wrote on 15th October 2020, 08:20 AM:

i guess i deserve this lmao

This is one example of something we call “playing victim.”

The other day, I joined a group chat that was related to a report I received from other stuff. You and a few others were apart of the chat, and as soon as I joined, you all were asking why I was there and acting hostile towards me. I was removed from it by you and added back to it, so I presumed you still were upholding a grudge against me, so I asked if you remembered me since you never said anything to me prior to this incident. You said yes, and I asked if you remembered what you did to me and how you treated me. Not because I wanted to cause issues, but because I was curious if you genuinely remembered and if that’s why you removed me and were being hostile towards me. You gave me a half-assed apology, and I disregarded it by leaving the chat, implying that I don’t forgive you with your apology that has no meaning behind it.

I was added back to that same chat, and I saw that you continued to talk badly about me. You also claimed that I held a grudge. In all honesty, I didn’t until you showed hostility as if you still hold a grudge against me. I left after seeing what I wanted to see.

I privately messaged you, saying that if I harassed you, you should simply report me to an admin rather than causing drama on forums and that if you’d like to speak to me about something, you can add me and privately message me rather than talking badly about me in chats. You added me, and you once again played the victim card by saying that “everyone is against you” and making more claims that I “said you didn’t change.” I responded to every single message you sent, and you proceeded to ignore it, only talking about how someone harassed you. I told you to send proof and I’ll send it to staff to be investigated further. You ignored me once again, clearly showing that you had nothing nice to say but wanted to just argue and defend yourself.

Then comes the icing on top of the cake.

You made a post about me, saying that I should be demoted for harassing you and that I said racist things towards you and your friends. One, if you had a report, you should’ve taken it to admins rather than making a post on forums and causing drama and problems for the other staff. Secondly, I didn’t harass you. Again, I asked a question to you in a group chat, not a public server, since you seemed to show hostility towards me before and after removing me. If you have proof of me harassing you, send it to an admin or a moderator, and they will deem whether it is harassment or not. Lastly, I would never say such things to anyone. The claim you made is preposterous, disrespectful, and simply rude.

After this, you made this post and sent me a private apology. Your apology, to me, is nullified by the acts you have committed within the past few days towards me and others. The fact that you gave me a meaningless, one sentence apology in that chat and couldn’t accept the fact that I didn’t forgive you, then continuing to talk badly about me proves how meaningful your apology actually is.

As Pablo perfectly said,

PabIo wrote on 15th October 2020, 03:45 AM:

Get your act together.