Before I start, I want to acknowledge that I am writing this because I feel like this will benefit me, and will benefit you. But I apologize if you think I'm writing this for attention.

Anyways, ...

A lot of you have joined this community at a really young age, and as we grow, we learn more about what's right and what's wrong. For some time, this community has been toxic, and at some point, we have been bullying each other. The toxicity caused many users to leave, which is really sad because past the toxic behavior, everyone has an amazing personality. I want to say "if everyone was nice to each other, then..." but I can't because that's not even possible. I agree, sure, we all should be nice to each other, but without all the insults and petty fights that have occurred, some of us wouldn't have learned how to stand up for ourselves.

I know for a fact that I have become more confident and had gained some more social skills because of this community. There are plenty of times where I cried because of certain people, and have made others cry. But I learned where I went wrong and haven't repeated the same mistake both online and in real life.

Back to the toxicity of the community though. I'm not saying that you should be mean to one another. What I'm trying to saying is that when someone is mean to you or is trying to pick a fight, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, but do it in a way where you won't regret your decisions.

I'll give you an example of what NOT to do.

Last week I was really upset over the stupidest thing. I was mad at the people from my previous school for being so fake to me. They wouldn't try to hide the fact that they all hated me (mind you, my grade was only 20 students) but never wanted to admitted it to me. I took my anger out on them weeks after school ended because by then, I knew that I was never going to see them again (so this was all online). I posted a TikTok of me posing as the fakest girl in my grade. In short, she found out about it and we ended up fighting for hours. We said a ton of hurtful things to each other and both ended up blocked one another. Thing is, she was actually nice to me in school. It was the fact that I knew that she talked crap about me behind my back that got me so upset.

Anyways, I regret ever posting that video because it didn't help me in any way. In fact, it made things worse.

So I learned my lesson and I hope you will learn from my mistakes too. "Don't fight fire with fire" because eventually everything will burn. You won't gain anything from fighting,

This is SO true. I have learnt this the hard way over the years. Its so hard to hold back anger on people who act crappy to you. But it is the BEST thing for YOUR happiness and their's.

The best way I have learnt and realised is this: “A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”​—Prov. 15:1.

damn u preachin. this community really does make u more thick-skinned, confident and more able to stand up for urself. I find that thas the case for myself and a bunch of others.

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sometimes I feel like people are toxic because they see other people acting the same way and want to fit in. its best to think about how you'd feel about what you're saying to someone else before you say it. it is a small community and we all have to look out for each other so best to stick up for people if you see it happening as well. or if you need help dealing with someone ask for help from friends and staff members. but sometimes it is best to block and walk away. some people you can't just get along with in the end. don't fight with them. agreed

Damen wrote on 24th August 2020, 06:08 AM:

This is SO true. I have learnt this the hard way over the years. Its so hard to hold back anger on people who act crappy to you. But it is the BEST thing for YOUR happiness and their's.
The best way I have learnt and realised is this: “A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”​—Prov. 15:1.

That quote is so smart and I will definitely remember it.