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23rd February 2021, 06:07 PM
CAN U ADD HE CHEATED ON me
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23rd February 2021, 06:00 PM
NOT LOKI DISLIKING ... GIRL GET YOUR ASS BACK HERE I KNOW U BE WARNING HIM
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23rd February 2021, 05:56 PM
i aint ever see a white kid get discriminated till i met tom
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11th February 2021, 05:43 PM
we accept u heh and im proud ur comfortable telling everyone, proud of u !
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10th February 2021, 06:15 PM
PAPACHIS wrote on 10th February 2021, 06:06 PM:
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xSugerbearx wrote on 10th February 2021, 05:54 PM:
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jemi1234 wrote on 10th February 2021, 12:50 PM:
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xSugerbearx wrote on 10th February 2021, 11:05 AM:
literally who is the head mod because ??? but i agree with u 100% bff it feels like every month the connection between users and staff kind of just worsens because i feel like they take an approach that is sort of controlling? and label people as argumentative or causing drama for small things
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xSugerbearx wrote on 10th February 2021, 11:05 AM:
literally who is the head mod because ??? but i agree with u 100% bff it feels like every month the connection between users and staff kind of just worsens because i feel like they take an approach that is sort of controlling? and label people as argumentative or causing drama for small things
was referring to both forums and oldcp !
Oldcp head mod is Jenna. Talk to her about those concerns im sure she'll listen
Jen#1685 on discord
hahah im okay thanks tho im sure she got the message
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10th February 2021, 06:14 PM
Zendaya2408 wrote on 10th February 2021, 01:04 PM:
I honestly agree with you so much on this. The amount of rudeness I've seen from other staff is definitely not okay. I've had to tell them at times that they should be nice and that everyone's opinions matter. Hell, I'll name some of what I've seen without naming anyone:
- refusing to comment when someone has an issue because of fear of verbal harassment
- namecalling behind people's backs
- literal arguing because of a punishment revision
It's honestly disgusting. It's lowkey embarrassing. I've only been a mod for 6 days but what I've seen behind the scenes in that time is disconcerting to me. Talking to a person is always- and I mean ALWAYS- necessary. If a person has questions, you listen and you answer them. You don't ignore them, you don't admit to ignoring them purposefully, no, that's not what you do. And you should always accept criticism. Criticism may hurt, yeah, but it helps you. Not everyone is going to like what you do. And it's better to fix it than to let it get worse.
- refusing to comment when someone has an issue because of fear of verbal harassment
- namecalling behind people's backs
- literal arguing because of a punishment revision
It's honestly disgusting. It's lowkey embarrassing. I've only been a mod for 6 days but what I've seen behind the scenes in that time is disconcerting to me. Talking to a person is always- and I mean ALWAYS- necessary. If a person has questions, you listen and you answer them. You don't ignore them, you don't admit to ignoring them purposefully, no, that's not what you do. And you should always accept criticism. Criticism may hurt, yeah, but it helps you. Not everyone is going to like what you do. And it's better to fix it than to let it get worse.
u fr carrying the forums staff team rn
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10th February 2021, 05:54 PM
jemi1234 wrote on 10th February 2021, 12:50 PM:
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xSugerbearx wrote on 10th February 2021, 11:05 AM:
literally who is the head mod because ??? but i agree with u 100% bff it feels like every month the connection between users and staff kind of just worsens because i feel like they take an approach that is sort of controlling? and label people as argumentative or causing drama for small things
literally who is the head mod because ??? but i agree with u 100% bff it feels like every month the connection between users and staff kind of just worsens because i feel like they take an approach that is sort of controlling? and label people as argumentative or causing drama for small things
was referring to both forums and oldcp !
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10th February 2021, 11:36 AM
DamenTest2 wrote on 10th February 2021, 11:15 AM:
I've done some non biased moderator training lately because I have seen this issue.
I think I'll do some restorative justice stuff with everyone as well if you want to take part it can help us resolve matters by restorative justice instead of retributive justice
I'm Damen btw on my phone
I think I'll do some restorative justice stuff with everyone as well if you want to take part it can help us resolve matters by restorative justice instead of retributive justice
I'm Damen btw on my phone
i think that is a good idea bc i feel as though the problem is that the restorative approach is almost never taken towards someone who is seen as toxic in the community bc of bias if that makes sense? for example if i log on and get mad over being warned theres like a 90% chance ill get warned again instead of getting an explanation, like what h appened to rhea
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literally who is the head mod because ??? but i agree with u 100% bff it feels like every month the connection between users and staff kind of just worsens because i feel like they take an approach that is sort of controlling? and label people as argumentative or causing drama for small things
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10th February 2021, 10:10 AM
he has to make a post for us
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9th February 2021, 09:33 AM
its not my place to accept your apology or not so im not gonna say i forgive you or i dont forgive you. but i feel as though your apology is rather flawed. i think the community needs to learn my fav saying !!! impact > intent. at the end of the day, intentions don't matter; the but the overall impact you had does. it doesnt matter if you tried to be 'dumb' and 'joke around', because thats not how it was seen. it doesnt matter if you didnt mean to make people uncomfortable, because thats what happened and thats what was expressed by ur victims (yes, victims, because that is what they are).
like lyss said, i feel like your 'short and straight to the point' apology could use some work considering you are only explaining yourself and your intentions which is pointless because like i said earlier impact > intent
Lyss wrote on 8th February 2021, 07:16 PM:
i think your apology would look better if you were to go more into depth about the 'actions' you're apologizing for and hold yourself accountable for every uncomfortable comment and/or action made towards the users affected.
like lyss said, i feel like your 'short and straight to the point' apology could use some work considering you are only explaining yourself and your intentions which is pointless because like i said earlier impact > intent
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1st February 2021, 12:35 PM
fable wrote on 1st February 2021, 11:46 AM:
The CO chat had 4-5 years of history. It only got toxic after Saber left.
unrelated but that co chat actually isnt 4-5 years old, its just from 2020. the former co chats are owned by me & jack (or hash? or pres? or pencil????)
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30th January 2021, 08:04 PM
Orbay wrote on 30th January 2021, 07:17 PM:
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Cristal412 wrote on 30th January 2021, 06:34 PM:
I got into a fight with Orbay once. I logged on oldcp ONCE to support tom at his trial and to look for jesse because I haven’t seen him in awhile. During the trial, me and a few others yelled GAY RIGHTS but only to make TOM laugh (and ONLY TOM). It wasn’t directed to anyone else because we literally just wanted to cheer him up.
I don’t know how the argument started with orbay but I did not harass him. I just rlly don’t feel comfortable anymore around him as i used to and i made it very clear why. Arguments happen and people disagree with each other.. it doesn’t make a person toxic if they don’t like someone lol.
Little has like over 1k rep im sure 3-4 dislikes doesn’t leave a dent in her rep at all. the fact that disliking a post is now considered toxic, when everyone used to mass dislike srirams post because his raps were weird.. but he was just spreading content he liked. The double standards are real, especially when it comes to a person thats widely disliked in the community vs someone who is widely loved in the community.
a question arises of whether or not a person deserves to be widely loved in the community or widely hated in the community. that’s honestly rlly up to your own opinions and how you see people. but what if there are people who are getting hate that don’t deserve it? and what if there are ppl getting praised who don’t deserve it.
It’s weird that there’s an automatic assumption that everyone in shapiro is toxic, when a few of us just played roblox for a few hours and shared light hearted jokes. Also, ever since i made that post about sled and dice not handling my ban properly, people in this community obviously have a different opinion of me now. It’s like the minute you disagree or dislike a person that is really loved in this community.. you’re toxic all of a sudden, because how can you hate a person that everyone loves?
Anyways, I admit i get into arguments with a few people i morally can’t respect. Please understand that this is something normal.. and not toxic. Everyone in shapiro, as val said.. literally talks about games, music, or school. no one is plotting against oldcp lol.
I got into a fight with Orbay once. I logged on oldcp ONCE to support tom at his trial and to look for jesse because I haven’t seen him in awhile. During the trial, me and a few others yelled GAY RIGHTS but only to make TOM laugh (and ONLY TOM). It wasn’t directed to anyone else because we literally just wanted to cheer him up.
I don’t know how the argument started with orbay but I did not harass him. I just rlly don’t feel comfortable anymore around him as i used to and i made it very clear why. Arguments happen and people disagree with each other.. it doesn’t make a person toxic if they don’t like someone lol.
Little has like over 1k rep im sure 3-4 dislikes doesn’t leave a dent in her rep at all. the fact that disliking a post is now considered toxic, when everyone used to mass dislike srirams post because his raps were weird.. but he was just spreading content he liked. The double standards are real, especially when it comes to a person thats widely disliked in the community vs someone who is widely loved in the community.
a question arises of whether or not a person deserves to be widely loved in the community or widely hated in the community. that’s honestly rlly up to your own opinions and how you see people. but what if there are people who are getting hate that don’t deserve it? and what if there are ppl getting praised who don’t deserve it.
It’s weird that there’s an automatic assumption that everyone in shapiro is toxic, when a few of us just played roblox for a few hours and shared light hearted jokes. Also, ever since i made that post about sled and dice not handling my ban properly, people in this community obviously have a different opinion of me now. It’s like the minute you disagree or dislike a person that is really loved in this community.. you’re toxic all of a sudden, because how can you hate a person that everyone loves?
Anyways, I admit i get into arguments with a few people i morally can’t respect. Please understand that this is something normal.. and not toxic. Everyone in shapiro, as val said.. literally talks about games, music, or school. no one is plotting against oldcp lol.
And when I told you lot to simmer down, you all started yelling "ORBAY HAS A PROBLEM WITH GAY RIGHTS?". So spare me the dramatic crap.
"I did not harass him"
You called me a groomer out of absolutely nowhere mid-trial and then got offended when I called you out for saying it.
Then you proceeded to spam "groomer" while tagging me in the CO Discord server.
And then you tried to provide "evidence", it was a screenshot of something Charles said, which is just incorrect and a blatant lie.
And not only did you do all of that, you felt the need to bring this up on a post that had nothing to do with the subject at all, knowing damn well that you're in the wrong.
What you did that day and today is the textbook definition of "toxic", and you trying to save face and play victim by writing this post is pathetic.
Valentina's absolutely right. Shapiro isn't the problem. People like you are.
im not gonna say anything but i simply wont tolerate the 'people like you are'. you act as if the very same members that make up the staff team havent been toxic themselves cause i got a HANDFUL of things that prove otherwise. also adding on to that, i dont think you should be acting all high and mighty and innocent considering there are some VERY questionable things that can be held against you. you may not be a groomer but i am not gonna sit here and act like you havent done things 10x worse than rhea calling you names. things that you werent even held accountable for actually and im sure we all know what im talking about
but anyways, people like US are the problem right ???
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30th January 2021, 08:00 PM
Damen wrote on 30th January 2021, 01:42 PM:
Dont remove this post. I dont see a problem with it. Only a few dislikes were given to Little. Why? I dont know... but it seems to be a personal thing. I encourage people to treat others the way they want to be treated, I mean, at this point its not a serious enough issue for mod action.
Also I knew very little about this discord server until recently. All I heard were negative things up to now. Its associated with stuff like this. Thats why its seen that way here, we who dont know everything about it.
Also I knew very little about this discord server until recently. All I heard were negative things up to now. Its associated with stuff like this. Thats why its seen that way here, we who dont know everything about it.
the treat others the way you want to be treated seems to only apply to users the staff like. it wasnt a personal thing, it was a just a joke and ironically enough it was actually initiated by someone who wasnt in shapiro to begin with. shapiro had no association with that - it was really only me rhea lyss and tom who disliked her comment so naturally people automatically assumed all of shapiro was out to get little. no one was tho we just did it without reasoning considering it was just rep. u make a good point that people only hear negative stuff about it but the problem is people will only hear what they want to hear, and no one will bother trying to hear anything that they dont want to believe in. there are very little things shapiro can be tied to aside from 'mass killing' or whatever happened on oldcp, but some how people tie a million other negative things to it
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