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Khrysalis
13th April 2014, 01:09 AM
Okay, for those of you Women who clicked on this, Congratulations! You have just earned yourself a ticket to happiness! So for you women who like guys, this is the post for you. I will tell you how to know if a guy likes you, without asking that guy. Here are some steps:
Notice the way he talks to you. The way he talks to you can say a lot about how he really feels.
Here are some things to consider:
Note his tone. Does he talk to you in a measured way that shows that he's put a lot of thought into what you think?
Note his eye contact. Does he look you in the eye when he talks to you, or does he look around the room distractedly?
Note that he may be afraid of eye contact because he likes you. He could just be shy!
Note if he gets easily interrupted. If he's talking to you, but someone else comes up, does he instantly forget your conversation? If so, what he says to you may not be so important.
Notice what he chooses to say to you. What he talks to you about can be a big indicator of how he really views you. Here are some signs that the things he says mean he wants more from you:
If he teases you. If he playfully teases you a lot, this is a great sign that he's flirting and wants you to flirt back!
If he tells you personal information. If he's telling you about his issues with his family, or his anxieties and fears, then he may be wanting to take the relationship to a deeper level.
If he compliments you. If he's always subtly complimenting how smart you are, or if he tells you that you look great when you see him, this is a sign that he really admires who you are.
If he minimizes his bro-ness. If you notice that when he jokes around his guy friends, he tends to burp and curse and be vulgar, but that he makes an effort to be more refined around you, that's a sign that he's really paying attention to what he says.
If he asks about your romantic life. If he's subtly trying to find out if you're going on dates or seeing other guys, then he may want to be the one you have eyes for.
Note that if he's constantly trying to set you up with one of his friends, or asks why you don't go out on a date with so-and-so, he may be trying to keep you in the Friend Zone by making sure you're shooting cupid's arrow elsewhere.
Note what he says about other girls. Paying attention to what he says about other girls can tell you if he just wants your advice, or if you're the only girl he's after.
If he's always asking your advice about how to win over his latest conquest, this may be a sign that he just sees you as a friend and values your opinion because you're a girl.
He may ask your advice on how to get a girl and that might mean that he's asking you, in a different way, what you would like from a guy so he could get you.
However, if he's always a bit negative about any girl he goes on dates with or says things like, "I just can't find the right girl," he may really be saying that he thinks the right girl is you.
If he acts like a player, it may mean one of two things. If he's always talking about his latest conquest, then he may in fact just be a player, and you should protect your heart. However, he may be doing this just to make you jealous. See if he's really seeing as many girls as he says he is, or if he's just trying to get a reaction out of you.
Note what he says to you when you're apart. Some guys are just plain shy and are better at showing their feelings online or over the phone. Note the ways he communicates with you through the following methods:
The phone. Does he sound nervous when you talk on the phone? This may be a sign that he wants to impress you. Are your conversations long, or does he try to get to the point and get off the phone as quickly as possible?
Email. If he tries very hard to impress you with his wit and correct grammar, then chances are, he's spending a lot of time crafting his words to show you how smart and clever he is.
Text messaging. Does he just text you to say when and where to meet, or does he sometimes text you just because he wants to chat? Does he try to be funny or send emoticons? If he's putting extra effort into his texting, chances are, he wants to put extra effort into your relationship.
Facebook. Does he "like" a lot of your photos and post on your wall often? This may be a sign that he's keeping tabs on you.
Take all of this with a grain of salt. Some guys are just not phone, email, or Facebook people. He may just rather see you in person, and there's nothing wrong with that!
Pay attention to his body language. Body language can go a long way in showing you if he'd rather be cuddling with you than just hanging out. Notice the following:
If he "accidentally" touches you a lot. If you're sitting together during a movie, does his knee brush up against yours? If you're passing something to him, do his fingers linger on yours? This may be a sign that he wants to touch you more.
If you catch him staring at you. If you're out with a group and you notice him staring at you, this is a sign that he's admiring you. If you catch his eye and he smiles and looks away, this is a sign that he knows he's been caught staring!
If his body is engaged when he talks to you. If his entire body is turned toward you when you talk, and if his arms are open and not folded at his side, this is a sign that he's open to what you have to say.
You earn bonus points if you always find him leaning in closely to talk to you.
Notice what he does for you. Does he go out of his way to be a good friend? If so, he may be doing something more. Here are some signs that he may be developing that lovin' feeling every time he looks your way:
If he's always doing you favors. If you find him doing things like giving you rides, making you lunch when you're having a busy day at work, picking up your laundry, or helping you fix your car, he may be angling for the boyfriend role.
If he's constantly being thoughtful. If he brings back your favorite dessert from a bakery, or buys you that book you've been meaning to read, this is a sign that he's really paying attention to your needs.
If he comforts you when you're upset. Let's face it--no guy wants to comfort a random crying girl. However, if he really cares for you, he'll be there to listen to your problems, and probably wants to take the relationship further.
Notice how he acts around other girls. Seeing what he does around other girls can tell you how he really feels about you. Here are some ways to get a better sense of his true feelings:
Does he treat every girl the same way he treats you? If you notice that you're the only one he wants to be around in big groups, and the only girl he teases and likes to pick up when you're hanging out in the pool, this is a sign that he wants to be with you. #*However, if you notice him teasing and touching every girl in a five-mile radius, he may just be a flirt.
Does he flaunt his relationships in front of you? If he openly has you hanging out with him and his new date, then he may really see you as just a friend.
However, if he has you there to see what you really think, this may be a sign that he knows you're the one for him. If he's cagey about hanging with other girls, then this may be a sign that he already sees you as a girlfriend and feels he's being disloyal.
See if he goes out of his way to be with you. This is a sure-fire sign that he wants to take things to the next level. Here are some ways to know how he really feels:
If he's constantly asking you to hang out. This one is a no-brainer.
If he tries to sidle up to you when you're in groups. If he wants to be your partner in class, or if he wants to be your partner during a chicken fight, chances are, he can't get enough of you.
If he's always claiming he's "in the area" and asks if he can stop by. If he's making excuses for why he wants to hang out, this may be a sign that he's embarrassed about how much he wants to be with you.
Note the types of things you do together. Are you engaging in more date-like activities, or are you on the buddy system? Taking a long hard look at how you hang out can help you understand his real intentions. Here are some things to consider:
Are you doing couple-y things together without being a couple? Do you find yourself grocery shopping, cooking dinner together, or even going to the Farmer's Market with one grocery bag?
These may be signs that he sees you as a girlfriend already.
When you hang out, are you hanging solo or with a big group of people? This may indicate if he wants to see you a more than a friend.
If he invites his ten best friends or entire fraternity to join you when you hang out, he may not see you as more than a friend. But pay attention--if he only invites other couples to join you, he probably wants to pair off with you.
But if he invites his siblings, best friends, or if (yikes!) you somehow end up meeting his parents, this is a sure-fire sign that he wants you to be a serious part of his life.
Note how often you hang out. You can tell a lot about what he really thinks by considering how often and for how long you hang out.
Note the frequency of your hang-outs. If you hardly go a day without seeing him, he may want to spend his nights with you as well as the days. However, if you only see him once a month or so and he lives in your neighborhood, then he may not want to see you more often.
Note how long you hang out for when you see him. Does your coffee date turn into a three-hours philosophical discussion, or is he gone in the time it takes you to ask for the check? If he can't stop talking to you, this is a sign that he wants something more from you.
Note where you're hanging out. One of the easiest ways to see if he sees you as more than a friend is to note the places where you're hanging out. Here are some ways to see if he's trying to kick your relationship up a notch:
If you go out to eat, note the type of restaurant. If you're at a fun, loud, tapas bar, he may see you as more than a friend, but if you're at a quiet, candle-lit restaurant with fine wine, he may be trying to tell you something. However, if he sits down next you at the school cafeteria, that may not mean he's in the market for romance.
Look around at the other people at the restaurant. Are they couples ogling each other, or friends laughing and chatting it up? This may say something about what he has in mind for you.
Don't overthink it. He may really like you--but he might also really like Korean BBQ. The location can be a good indicator, but it can't tell you everything.
If he invites you to the movies, what kind of a movie is it? Are you watching a romantic comedy or tear-jerker, or are you watching a bloody war film or a documentary? His choice of flick may tell you if he wants to put his arm around you or if he just wants a buddy.
If you go to see a show, is it a low-lit jazz show or a female crooner, or a loud death metal concert that makes you go partially deaf? Is it the kind of place where you stand up and rock out, or sit down to romantically enjoy the show?
When you hang out can be just as important as where. This can be a clue to whether he sees you as a casual friend or if he's trying to take things to the next level. Pay attention to two things in particular:
Do you meet during the day, or in the evenings? There's a big difference between a lunch date and a dinner date, or morning coffee and an evening drink. If you tend to hang out more during the day, then you're currently hanging out in the friend zone--but that doesn't mean he doesn't want more.
Do you hang out during the week or weekends? If you're meeting up on Monday instead of Friday, you may find yourself in friend territory once more.
Ask around. An easy way to find out how he feels is simply to ask other people. Of course, you should do this with caution because you don't want him to find out what you really think about him. Here are some ways to find out:
Casually ask his friends. Ask his friends if he's seeing anyone or if he has feelings for anyone. Pick a friend you really trust, though--it will be hard to find a guy who breaks bro-code and doesn't report to him immediately.
Ask your girlfriends what they think. Your friends have seen the two of you together and can be honest about their assessment of the situation.
Have your friends ask him. Again, proceed with caution. If it's not too obvious, have one of your girlfriends ask him if he has his eye on someone special. She can pretend that she wants to set him up with someone else, for example.
Don't stalk or snoop. There's no way to turn off a guy faster than to be the obsessive girl who tries to learn every detail of his life. Here are some things to avoid at all costs:
Looking through his phone. If he left his phone out, do not look through it to see if he's texting other girls. If he catches you, he will see that as a big red flag.
Looking through his email or Facebook messages. If he walked away from his computer for a minute, avoid the temptation to be a snoop.
Following him around to see who he's hanging out with. This may put him more in the mood for a restraining order than romance.
Be brave and tell him how you feel! In the end, things may not move forward if you don't take the initiative. If you're pretty sure he likes you or are just feeling brave and like you have nothing to lose, then go ahead and tell him how you feel.
Be lighthearted. Don't take it too seriously. Don't arrange a time and place to meet up and say, "I have something important to tell you." Just find the right moment to tell him you have a crush on him and are wondering if he feels it too. Don't make it a big deal--you don't want him to feel bad if he doesn't feel the same way.
Be creative. Find a fun way to tell him how you feel. You can send him a note, a Valentine, or ask him to solve a riddle. Don't over do it, but if you think outside the box, he may be impressed.
Don't be disappointed if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. In the end, it may just not be meant to be. If you want to continue the friendship, here are some things to keep in mind:
Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't share your feelings. This will just make everyone feel bad in the end. It's better to play it off.
Remind yourself what a great friend he is and how lucky you are to have him. You may have missed out on a chance at romance, but you have a great friend for life.
Know when you need to take a break. If your crush has blossomed into full-blown love, it may be time to take a break from the friendship because it will hurt too much. If you stop crushing on him, you can return to hanging out, but there's nothing worse than torturing yourself by hanging out with someone who doesn't share your feelings.
So that's all, I know it is long but this is what it takes. If some of you men are reading this, I WILL DO ADVICE FOR YOU LATER!
Until next time, from The Wolfster, PEACE OUT PEEPS!
Notice the way he talks to you. The way he talks to you can say a lot about how he really feels.
Here are some things to consider:
Note his tone. Does he talk to you in a measured way that shows that he's put a lot of thought into what you think?
Note his eye contact. Does he look you in the eye when he talks to you, or does he look around the room distractedly?
Note that he may be afraid of eye contact because he likes you. He could just be shy!
Note if he gets easily interrupted. If he's talking to you, but someone else comes up, does he instantly forget your conversation? If so, what he says to you may not be so important.
Notice what he chooses to say to you. What he talks to you about can be a big indicator of how he really views you. Here are some signs that the things he says mean he wants more from you:
If he teases you. If he playfully teases you a lot, this is a great sign that he's flirting and wants you to flirt back!
If he tells you personal information. If he's telling you about his issues with his family, or his anxieties and fears, then he may be wanting to take the relationship to a deeper level.
If he compliments you. If he's always subtly complimenting how smart you are, or if he tells you that you look great when you see him, this is a sign that he really admires who you are.
If he minimizes his bro-ness. If you notice that when he jokes around his guy friends, he tends to burp and curse and be vulgar, but that he makes an effort to be more refined around you, that's a sign that he's really paying attention to what he says.
If he asks about your romantic life. If he's subtly trying to find out if you're going on dates or seeing other guys, then he may want to be the one you have eyes for.
Note that if he's constantly trying to set you up with one of his friends, or asks why you don't go out on a date with so-and-so, he may be trying to keep you in the Friend Zone by making sure you're shooting cupid's arrow elsewhere.
Note what he says about other girls. Paying attention to what he says about other girls can tell you if he just wants your advice, or if you're the only girl he's after.
If he's always asking your advice about how to win over his latest conquest, this may be a sign that he just sees you as a friend and values your opinion because you're a girl.
He may ask your advice on how to get a girl and that might mean that he's asking you, in a different way, what you would like from a guy so he could get you.
However, if he's always a bit negative about any girl he goes on dates with or says things like, "I just can't find the right girl," he may really be saying that he thinks the right girl is you.
If he acts like a player, it may mean one of two things. If he's always talking about his latest conquest, then he may in fact just be a player, and you should protect your heart. However, he may be doing this just to make you jealous. See if he's really seeing as many girls as he says he is, or if he's just trying to get a reaction out of you.
Note what he says to you when you're apart. Some guys are just plain shy and are better at showing their feelings online or over the phone. Note the ways he communicates with you through the following methods:
The phone. Does he sound nervous when you talk on the phone? This may be a sign that he wants to impress you. Are your conversations long, or does he try to get to the point and get off the phone as quickly as possible?
Email. If he tries very hard to impress you with his wit and correct grammar, then chances are, he's spending a lot of time crafting his words to show you how smart and clever he is.
Text messaging. Does he just text you to say when and where to meet, or does he sometimes text you just because he wants to chat? Does he try to be funny or send emoticons? If he's putting extra effort into his texting, chances are, he wants to put extra effort into your relationship.
Facebook. Does he "like" a lot of your photos and post on your wall often? This may be a sign that he's keeping tabs on you.
Take all of this with a grain of salt. Some guys are just not phone, email, or Facebook people. He may just rather see you in person, and there's nothing wrong with that!
Pay attention to his body language. Body language can go a long way in showing you if he'd rather be cuddling with you than just hanging out. Notice the following:
If he "accidentally" touches you a lot. If you're sitting together during a movie, does his knee brush up against yours? If you're passing something to him, do his fingers linger on yours? This may be a sign that he wants to touch you more.
If you catch him staring at you. If you're out with a group and you notice him staring at you, this is a sign that he's admiring you. If you catch his eye and he smiles and looks away, this is a sign that he knows he's been caught staring!
If his body is engaged when he talks to you. If his entire body is turned toward you when you talk, and if his arms are open and not folded at his side, this is a sign that he's open to what you have to say.
You earn bonus points if you always find him leaning in closely to talk to you.
Notice what he does for you. Does he go out of his way to be a good friend? If so, he may be doing something more. Here are some signs that he may be developing that lovin' feeling every time he looks your way:
If he's always doing you favors. If you find him doing things like giving you rides, making you lunch when you're having a busy day at work, picking up your laundry, or helping you fix your car, he may be angling for the boyfriend role.
If he's constantly being thoughtful. If he brings back your favorite dessert from a bakery, or buys you that book you've been meaning to read, this is a sign that he's really paying attention to your needs.
If he comforts you when you're upset. Let's face it--no guy wants to comfort a random crying girl. However, if he really cares for you, he'll be there to listen to your problems, and probably wants to take the relationship further.
Notice how he acts around other girls. Seeing what he does around other girls can tell you how he really feels about you. Here are some ways to get a better sense of his true feelings:
Does he treat every girl the same way he treats you? If you notice that you're the only one he wants to be around in big groups, and the only girl he teases and likes to pick up when you're hanging out in the pool, this is a sign that he wants to be with you. #*However, if you notice him teasing and touching every girl in a five-mile radius, he may just be a flirt.
Does he flaunt his relationships in front of you? If he openly has you hanging out with him and his new date, then he may really see you as just a friend.
However, if he has you there to see what you really think, this may be a sign that he knows you're the one for him. If he's cagey about hanging with other girls, then this may be a sign that he already sees you as a girlfriend and feels he's being disloyal.
See if he goes out of his way to be with you. This is a sure-fire sign that he wants to take things to the next level. Here are some ways to know how he really feels:
If he's constantly asking you to hang out. This one is a no-brainer.
If he tries to sidle up to you when you're in groups. If he wants to be your partner in class, or if he wants to be your partner during a chicken fight, chances are, he can't get enough of you.
If he's always claiming he's "in the area" and asks if he can stop by. If he's making excuses for why he wants to hang out, this may be a sign that he's embarrassed about how much he wants to be with you.
Note the types of things you do together. Are you engaging in more date-like activities, or are you on the buddy system? Taking a long hard look at how you hang out can help you understand his real intentions. Here are some things to consider:
Are you doing couple-y things together without being a couple? Do you find yourself grocery shopping, cooking dinner together, or even going to the Farmer's Market with one grocery bag?
These may be signs that he sees you as a girlfriend already.
When you hang out, are you hanging solo or with a big group of people? This may indicate if he wants to see you a more than a friend.
If he invites his ten best friends or entire fraternity to join you when you hang out, he may not see you as more than a friend. But pay attention--if he only invites other couples to join you, he probably wants to pair off with you.
But if he invites his siblings, best friends, or if (yikes!) you somehow end up meeting his parents, this is a sure-fire sign that he wants you to be a serious part of his life.
Note how often you hang out. You can tell a lot about what he really thinks by considering how often and for how long you hang out.
Note the frequency of your hang-outs. If you hardly go a day without seeing him, he may want to spend his nights with you as well as the days. However, if you only see him once a month or so and he lives in your neighborhood, then he may not want to see you more often.
Note how long you hang out for when you see him. Does your coffee date turn into a three-hours philosophical discussion, or is he gone in the time it takes you to ask for the check? If he can't stop talking to you, this is a sign that he wants something more from you.
Note where you're hanging out. One of the easiest ways to see if he sees you as more than a friend is to note the places where you're hanging out. Here are some ways to see if he's trying to kick your relationship up a notch:
If you go out to eat, note the type of restaurant. If you're at a fun, loud, tapas bar, he may see you as more than a friend, but if you're at a quiet, candle-lit restaurant with fine wine, he may be trying to tell you something. However, if he sits down next you at the school cafeteria, that may not mean he's in the market for romance.
Look around at the other people at the restaurant. Are they couples ogling each other, or friends laughing and chatting it up? This may say something about what he has in mind for you.
Don't overthink it. He may really like you--but he might also really like Korean BBQ. The location can be a good indicator, but it can't tell you everything.
If he invites you to the movies, what kind of a movie is it? Are you watching a romantic comedy or tear-jerker, or are you watching a bloody war film or a documentary? His choice of flick may tell you if he wants to put his arm around you or if he just wants a buddy.
If you go to see a show, is it a low-lit jazz show or a female crooner, or a loud death metal concert that makes you go partially deaf? Is it the kind of place where you stand up and rock out, or sit down to romantically enjoy the show?
When you hang out can be just as important as where. This can be a clue to whether he sees you as a casual friend or if he's trying to take things to the next level. Pay attention to two things in particular:
Do you meet during the day, or in the evenings? There's a big difference between a lunch date and a dinner date, or morning coffee and an evening drink. If you tend to hang out more during the day, then you're currently hanging out in the friend zone--but that doesn't mean he doesn't want more.
Do you hang out during the week or weekends? If you're meeting up on Monday instead of Friday, you may find yourself in friend territory once more.
Ask around. An easy way to find out how he feels is simply to ask other people. Of course, you should do this with caution because you don't want him to find out what you really think about him. Here are some ways to find out:
Casually ask his friends. Ask his friends if he's seeing anyone or if he has feelings for anyone. Pick a friend you really trust, though--it will be hard to find a guy who breaks bro-code and doesn't report to him immediately.
Ask your girlfriends what they think. Your friends have seen the two of you together and can be honest about their assessment of the situation.
Have your friends ask him. Again, proceed with caution. If it's not too obvious, have one of your girlfriends ask him if he has his eye on someone special. She can pretend that she wants to set him up with someone else, for example.
Don't stalk or snoop. There's no way to turn off a guy faster than to be the obsessive girl who tries to learn every detail of his life. Here are some things to avoid at all costs:
Looking through his phone. If he left his phone out, do not look through it to see if he's texting other girls. If he catches you, he will see that as a big red flag.
Looking through his email or Facebook messages. If he walked away from his computer for a minute, avoid the temptation to be a snoop.
Following him around to see who he's hanging out with. This may put him more in the mood for a restraining order than romance.
Be brave and tell him how you feel! In the end, things may not move forward if you don't take the initiative. If you're pretty sure he likes you or are just feeling brave and like you have nothing to lose, then go ahead and tell him how you feel.
Be lighthearted. Don't take it too seriously. Don't arrange a time and place to meet up and say, "I have something important to tell you." Just find the right moment to tell him you have a crush on him and are wondering if he feels it too. Don't make it a big deal--you don't want him to feel bad if he doesn't feel the same way.
Be creative. Find a fun way to tell him how you feel. You can send him a note, a Valentine, or ask him to solve a riddle. Don't over do it, but if you think outside the box, he may be impressed.
Don't be disappointed if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. In the end, it may just not be meant to be. If you want to continue the friendship, here are some things to keep in mind:
Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't share your feelings. This will just make everyone feel bad in the end. It's better to play it off.
Remind yourself what a great friend he is and how lucky you are to have him. You may have missed out on a chance at romance, but you have a great friend for life.
Know when you need to take a break. If your crush has blossomed into full-blown love, it may be time to take a break from the friendship because it will hurt too much. If you stop crushing on him, you can return to hanging out, but there's nothing worse than torturing yourself by hanging out with someone who doesn't share your feelings.
So that's all, I know it is long but this is what it takes. If some of you men are reading this, I WILL DO ADVICE FOR YOU LATER!
Until next time, from The Wolfster, PEACE OUT PEEPS!
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13th April 2014, 06:53 AM
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That's very long and detailed which is very good. Also why are you talking about love? It's not a cupid game. 
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