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12th July 2015, 02:39 AM
I;m going to make a discussion on emotional pain. I really don't want to put that much effort into this community anymore, but I feel this really needs to be explained to some of you. No offense, but some of you have the thickest of skulls, don't understand the truth, and try to act perfect on here like I once did.
First topic: Depression.
Ive been through incidents where people make fun of people who have cuts on there arms. (Yes, this is all experiences that have happened HERE.) Don't you dare say a word. Don't you mock them for trying to get attention. Whatever you do, don't me cliche, please.
Why do people cut themselves? Part of it is for attention. But they do it because they are showing they need HELP. They need the attention to keep themselves alive. I have never cut, but I have thought about killing myself. I have other harming OCD issues I need to stop.
One thing that annoys the hell outta me is what I am going to discuss next. So sometimes, there are people, who make posts with super fancy graphics and colored words, and every single one of those words is bolded. Each paragraph is basically repeating itself, trying to make it look fancy, but some people have made posts about "depression." Most of the time people who have made these posts never have had severe depression because their take on it is absolutely easy. Wow, I wish getting over depression was THAT easy!
One common thing that is said is, "Think of the people who have it much worse"
Now, that would be helpful, if you are complaining and pouting, but with depression, that has NO AFFECT ON YOU WHATSOEVER. SO DON'T TELL ANYONE WHO IS DEPRESSED THAT CRAP. IT DOES NOTHING!
If you truly think that will help someone through depression, you are ignorant to how depression feels. People want to kill themselves for many different reasons. My reason? I didn't want to feel pain anymore. So associate something with not feeling pain. Like laughter, make them laugh. They don't think they are worth it? Don't just tell them they are worth it, DO SOMETHING for them to SHOW them they are worth it.
Don't just utter useless words. SHOW THEM. You can do it, even online.
Next: Emotional Pain
Ok many times I see on here is "oh if ur not forgiven then shame on them they need to forget the past!!!"
True statement, but it depends on what they did. Forgiving is not easy, Don't take forgiving as an understatement thanks.
Bye.
First topic: Depression.
Ive been through incidents where people make fun of people who have cuts on there arms. (Yes, this is all experiences that have happened HERE.) Don't you dare say a word. Don't you mock them for trying to get attention. Whatever you do, don't me cliche, please.
Why do people cut themselves? Part of it is for attention. But they do it because they are showing they need HELP. They need the attention to keep themselves alive. I have never cut, but I have thought about killing myself. I have other harming OCD issues I need to stop.
One thing that annoys the hell outta me is what I am going to discuss next. So sometimes, there are people, who make posts with super fancy graphics and colored words, and every single one of those words is bolded. Each paragraph is basically repeating itself, trying to make it look fancy, but some people have made posts about "depression." Most of the time people who have made these posts never have had severe depression because their take on it is absolutely easy. Wow, I wish getting over depression was THAT easy!
One common thing that is said is, "Think of the people who have it much worse"
Now, that would be helpful, if you are complaining and pouting, but with depression, that has NO AFFECT ON YOU WHATSOEVER. SO DON'T TELL ANYONE WHO IS DEPRESSED THAT CRAP. IT DOES NOTHING!
If you truly think that will help someone through depression, you are ignorant to how depression feels. People want to kill themselves for many different reasons. My reason? I didn't want to feel pain anymore. So associate something with not feeling pain. Like laughter, make them laugh. They don't think they are worth it? Don't just tell them they are worth it, DO SOMETHING for them to SHOW them they are worth it.
Don't just utter useless words. SHOW THEM. You can do it, even online.
Next: Emotional Pain
Ok many times I see on here is "oh if ur not forgiven then shame on them they need to forget the past!!!"
True statement, but it depends on what they did. Forgiving is not easy, Don't take forgiving as an understatement thanks.
Bye.
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12th July 2015, 03:02 AM
Uhm, May, that post was a bit, dramatic.. And, some people like drama, some don't. (I don't) Please try not to keep talking about this, because I saw it in moods, now it's in discussions, sorry if that sounded a little mean, wasn't meant to, but okay. Thanks, ~Mills~
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12th July 2015, 03:19 AM
Milly Drake wrote on 12th July 2015 03:02 AM:
Uhm, May, that post was a bit, dramatic.. And, some people like drama, some don't. (I don't) Please try not to keep talking about this, because I saw it in moods, now it's in discussions, sorry if that sounded a little mean, wasn't meant to, but okay. Thanks, ~Mills~
To me it's another issue you have here. Talking of such things should never be wrong to discuss about. A dramatic post, indeed, for I am a dramatic person. Why can't we talk of such things? I am trying to help the people who know others who have depression, if you read the whole thing you would know I talk about how to help solve someone's depression. Not to mention I am also stating my own opinion.
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12th July 2015, 03:26 AM
May23 wrote on 12th July 2015 03:19 AM:
Milly Drake said on 12th July 2015 03:02 AM:
Uhm, May, that post was a bit, dramatic.. And, some people like drama, some don't. (I don't) Please try not to keep talking about this, because I saw it in moods, now it's in discussions, sorry if that sounded a little mean, wasn't meant to, but okay. Thanks, ~Mills~
To me it's another issue you have here. Talking of such things should never be wrong to discuss about. A dramatic post, indeed, for I am a dramatic person. Why can't we talk of such things? I am trying to help the people who know others who have depression, if you read the whole thing you would know I talk about how to help solve someone's depression. Not to mention I am also stating my own opinion.
Uhm, May, that post was a bit, dramatic.. And, some people like drama, some don't. (I don't) Please try not to keep talking about this, because I saw it in moods, now it's in discussions, sorry if that sounded a little mean, wasn't meant to, but okay. Thanks, ~Mills~
To me it's another issue you have here. Talking of such things should never be wrong to discuss about. A dramatic post, indeed, for I am a dramatic person. Why can't we talk of such things? I am trying to help the people who know others who have depression, if you read the whole thing you would know I talk about how to help solve someone's depression. Not to mention I am also stating my own opinion.
Ok, just saying. And also, PM me. ~Mills~
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12th July 2015, 10:13 AM
Well, how does anybody on here know if they've cut themselves or not? We don't. And you're right, everyone's perspective on depression doesn't come close to explaining what depression actually is. And it's not their fault. We all know what it's like to feel depressed, but unless the degree of it is high and it takes control of your life, we can try to understand other's pain, but our brains just simply can't comprehend the true feeling of depression. It's just how it is and nobody is to blame for that.
Seeking attention and lying are two different things, and usually online, it's lying. You can't help people online that are saying they're depressed if there is nothing to actually help because they're not actually depressed. And usually, if you try to help them anyways, despite whatever you do, they don't listen to you and that's what you thought they wanted. People to listen to them and understand them and help them. So lying is usually making that stuff up. Seeking attention is actually having it and you're just crying for help and doing everything you can to get attention. It's typically lying.
I get that saying "imagine those who have it much worse" can't help. Can't help people who truly have severe depression. But sometimes, that's what some people really need to think about. I mean, some say they're depressed because they got banned or they're virtual girlfriend or boyfriend broke up with them. You can't help with their depression because it isn't depression and they need to think about people who have no home, no food, no water, no education, no friends, and no clothes or not that much clothes and then be grateful for life.
But anyone who is really depressed, I do indeed try to help them and let them know they aren't alone and everyone else should do. But sometimes, especially online, you can just tell they're lying or they think they're depressed when they're just sad or disappointed. And if someone tries to justify their actions when apologizing, maybe you shouldn't forgive them, because it's an excuse not an apology. But if they apologize sincerely for leaving a scar and try to cure your scar and you don't forgive them, it's selfish. I agree with this like partially.
Seeking attention and lying are two different things, and usually online, it's lying. You can't help people online that are saying they're depressed if there is nothing to actually help because they're not actually depressed. And usually, if you try to help them anyways, despite whatever you do, they don't listen to you and that's what you thought they wanted. People to listen to them and understand them and help them. So lying is usually making that stuff up. Seeking attention is actually having it and you're just crying for help and doing everything you can to get attention. It's typically lying.
I get that saying "imagine those who have it much worse" can't help. Can't help people who truly have severe depression. But sometimes, that's what some people really need to think about. I mean, some say they're depressed because they got banned or they're virtual girlfriend or boyfriend broke up with them. You can't help with their depression because it isn't depression and they need to think about people who have no home, no food, no water, no education, no friends, and no clothes or not that much clothes and then be grateful for life.
But anyone who is really depressed, I do indeed try to help them and let them know they aren't alone and everyone else should do. But sometimes, especially online, you can just tell they're lying or they think they're depressed when they're just sad or disappointed. And if someone tries to justify their actions when apologizing, maybe you shouldn't forgive them, because it's an excuse not an apology. But if they apologize sincerely for leaving a scar and try to cure your scar and you don't forgive them, it's selfish. I agree with this like partially.
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