We judge people to rate ourselves. We either want to feel better about who we are, or to hate on ourselves. My friends, that is not the answer. Judging others will not help you be successful. We all hate on ourselves, wishing we were skinnier, smarter, funnier. We base our thoughts about ourselves by judging other people. Instead, ask yourself "Is what I did match up to my beliefs and values on how to act?", " Why did I do what I did? Was it for my own benefit, or for somebody else's?", "What was the action's result?", "Is this action something that would count as right or wrong for my values/beliefs?", and "Did my action harm, help, or harm and help people?". Judging people to make yourself is not the way to do it. Every time you find yourself judging somebody else, ask yourself "Why am I saying this?", "Am I jealous of him/her, am I mad at him/her, etc?", "If I said this to him/her's face, what would their reaction be?", "What is my "benefit" from hurting others (nothing, hopefully)?", and "Would this harm or help somebody if they heard it?". The reason we judge is to either make ourselves feel worse, or to make us feel more self-confident. We cannot ever, ever base somebody's actions against our own. We are ALL different people. If somebody's body is different, that's fine. We aren't the same. We are all different. If you're judging somebody, saying, for example, that they're "dumb", what that really means is that you feel dumb and want to feel smart, so you take it out on other people. Next time you feel dumb, ask your "Why do I feel this way?" (if your answer is "I got a D on a quiz", here is an example of the next question), "Well, I tried my best. I worked hard, and I am not dumb. Everybody has different methods of learning, and different ways to work best. Maybe I can try to find different ways to study and learn." Problem solving is key. Instead of focusing on how sad you feel, or how stupid you feel, think about what you can do solve/improve the future actions/results. Be creative, maybe even make a fun chart with ideas of how to solve it. Most importantly, talk to people about how you feel and why. Don't be afraid to ask people you love and care about for help. They will not judge you, especially parents. I am also here to listen, not judge.